Bajka / A Fairytale

Ovo je moj život! Meni je dat kao redak dar i od mene zavisi kako ću ga upotrebiti. Ja sam taj umetnik koji će mu dati konačni oblik.

Živeti život ispunjen ljubavlju, divnim, dragim ljudima, istinskom lepotom življenja u jednostavnosti već datog sa neverovatnom lakoćom. Uživati u magiji svakodnevnih stvari, malih čistih trenutaka sreće i spokoja. To je moj film…

Zahteva trud, ali ne i težinu, mudrost je iskoristiti maksimalno prednosti onoga što nam je dato, bilo to naše okruženje ili naši talenti i veštine, a onda ih poboljšati, usavršiti, oplemeniti, tako ćemo lakše savladati i one stvari koje nam baš i ne idu od ruke. Važno je prihvatiti nesavršenost, jer to je ono što nas čini jedinstvenim. Možda je bolje reći da smo svi savršeni na poseban način. Meni su večita inspiracija i motivacija ljudi koji zrače pozitivnošću, a često imaju težak život; ljudi koji su ispunjeni onime što rade i rade to sa lakoćom, a postižu uspeh; ljudi koji se osećaju dobro u svojoj koži i imaju saosećanja za druge, oni koji te nateraju da se zamisliš, da se zapitaš o pravoj vrednosti života i da li je zaista shvataš i prihvataš.

Prestala sam da mislim da moram da uradim nešto, postignem nešto, ne, ne moram. Ništa ne moram. Za neke stvari prosto nisam sazdana, ali ono što imam, što posedujem, što je samo moje, treba da upotrebim, da koristim, da rastem.

Biću sasvim zadovoljna i srećna da vodim svoj život i svoju mladu porodicu putem koji sam sama odsanjala i da kroz neke male stvari dotaknem još nečiji život iskrom radosti i čuda koja se dešavaju svakodnevno i u koja verujem. Verujem u svoju bajku, a i ona veruje u mene.

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This is my life! It was given to me as a rare gift and it depends on me how I will use it. I am the artist who will give it the final shape.

To live a life filled with love, with wonderful, dear people, the true beauty of living in the simplicity that’s already given with incredible ease. Enjoy the magic of everyday things, small pure moments of happiness and serenity. This is my movie…

It requires effort, but not heaviness, wisdom is to make the most of what is given to us, be it our environment or our talents and skills, and then improve, perfect, refine them, so we can more easily master those things that do not really do well for us. It is important to accept imperfection, because that is what makes us unique. Perhaps it is better to say that we are all perfect in a special way. To me, the eternal inspiration and motivation are the people who radiate positivity, even they often have a difficult life; people who are filled with what they do and do it with ease and achieve success; people who feel good in their own skin and have compassion for others, those who make you think, make you ask yourself about the true value of life and whether you really understand and accept it.

I stopped thinking I have to do something, achieve something, no, I don’t have to. I don’t have to do anything. For some things I am simply not made for, but what I have, what I possess, which is only mine, I need to use, to employ, to grow.

I will be completely satisfied and happy to lead my life and my young family on the path I dreamed of myself and to touch someone else’s life through some small things with the spark of joy and miracles that happen every day and in which I believe. I believe in my fairy tale, and she also believes in me.

Tijana Stupljanin

Buđenje / Awakening

Život je konstantna promena. Sve oko nas je u cikličnom kretanju, pa i svi procesi u našem telu takođe, i mi kao deo prirode imamo potencijal da se krećemo u tom ritmu. Ako uporedimo ljudsko telo i drvo, vidimo da su u kori drveta upisani godovi, kažu da kora drveta pamti, a isto se kaže i za ljudsku kožu, ipak jedno drvo u samo jednoj godini umre i ponovo se rodi, podari novo seme iz koga može da iznikne sasvim novo drvo, čak i iz posečenog drveta, ako ostane panj, može da nikne nova mladica. Svakoga dana u prirodi možemo videti milion “malih čuda”, zašto mislimo da se ta čuda ne mogu desiti i nama, zar nismo i mi deo te čarobne prirode? Činjenica je da će stresna situacija, povreda, teža bolest… ostaviti ožiljke u nama i po nama, ali je isto tako činjenica da mi sve to možemo prevazići i krenuti iz početka. Mislim da je ključ da se savkoga dana ispraznimo od svih negativnosti koje su nas dotakle toga dana, da se napunimo pozitivnom energijom, bilo kroz druženje sa prirodom ili druženje sa dobrom knjigom, filmom, muzikom, a najlepše je u zagrljaju voljene osobe, i onda zakoračiti u novi dan sveži i okupani dobrim snom, “kao ponovo rođeni” krenuti u novi dan otvorenog uma, otvorenog srca, ispunjeni ljubavlju! Sunce se ponovo rađa, sunce se svakog dana ponovo rađa!

Budi sunce, budi zvezdano nebo, budi reka koja preobražava sve u dobro…

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Life is a constant change. Everything around us is moving in cycles, all the processes in our body as well, and as a part of the nature, we too have the potential to move in that rhythm. Should we make a comparison between human body and a tree, we notice the rings imprinted in the bark of a tree, they say the bark of a tree has a memory and the same thing is said for the human skin. A tree dies and reborn all in a year, it gives a seed from which a new tree can sprout, even if the tree is cut down, if the stump remains, a new offspring will arise. Every day we can witness to a million “little wonders” in the nature, why do we think these wonders don’t happen to us too, aren’t we a part of that miraculous nature? The fact is that a stressful situation, an injury, a bad sickness… will leave scars within us and on us, but it is also a fact that we can overcome it all and start all over again. I think that the key is to clear from all the negativity we have encountered during a day, then to fill up with a good energy, whether from being in the nature or spending time in a company of a nice book, a movie, listening to a music, and the most beautifully in someone’s loving hug, and then step into a new day fresh and renewed with the good night sleep, “like a reborn” welcome a new day with an open mind, open heart, filled with love! The sun comes out again, the sun comes out again every day!

Be the sun, be the sky full of stars, be a river that transforms everything into good…

Ringišpil života / Life’s carousel

Život je jedan šareni ringišpil. Čas si na vrhu i rukama možeš da opipaš nebo, a već sledećeg trenutka udišeš prašinu. Često ti je muka od svega i samo želiš da sve stane, da siđeš, ali ipak ponovo se penješ i vrtiš, vrtiš, vrtiš u krug i gore i dole i kad ti se najviše vrti u glavi vrištiš od sreće i zadovoljstva i osećaš se kao na krilima neke ptice sa kojom letiš i nemisleći kuda, samo osećaš da si zadovoljan tu gde jesi.

Bez obzira koliko bilo i mučno i teško, makar i zarad samo jednog takvog trenutka spokojstva, radosti i slobode, vredi se uvek iznova vraćati tom ringišpilu boja i života.

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Life is one colorful carousel. In a second you are on the top of it and you can touch the sky with your hands, and yet at the next moment you can breathe the dust. You are often sick of everything and you just want everything to stop, you are ready to go down, but still you climb and spin again, you spin and spin in a circle and up and down and when everything in your head is spinning the most you scream with happiness and pleasure, and you feel like you are on the wings of a bird you fly with and not thinking where, you just feel satisfied where you are.

No matter how painful and difficult it may be, even if only for the sake of just such a moment of serenity, joy and freedom, it is always worth returning to that carousel of colors and life.

Tijana Stupljanin

Jedan trenutak u životu / One moment in life

Duboko spoznajte da je sadašnji trenutak sve što ikada imate. – Ekart Tol

Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have.  – Eckhart Tolle

U trenutku kada sam postala zaista svesna da ću za par meseci postati majka, prva misao me je odvela u moje detinjstvo, u naručje majke. To je bio trenutak kada se sva snaga, sva veličina, sva ljubav svih majki pre mene pretočila u jedan savršeni momenat u kome sam prvi put razumela značenje te tako često i olako izgovarane reči, koje se ne može objasniti, mora se doživeti.

Miriše mamina kuhinja, kao nikada do sada. Miriše nostalgija. Najbolji je sadašnji trenutak, znam to i osećam, ipak zaplovim ponekad po nekim prošlim vremenima… Odrastemo ostajući deca celoga života, strepimo od pogrda i prekih pogleda, žudimo za rečima odobravanja, razumevanja, za ljubavlju besprekornom, punom prihvatanja. Mirišu dunje mog detinjstva. Tople ruke što su me kroz život vodile. Napijem se vode sa tog izvora sećanja i krenem putem slobode… Dolazi vreme promena, vreme da stope mojih koraka ispune meke, bose, dečije nožice…

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At the moment when I got to be really aware that I would become a mother in a couple of months, the first thought I had has taken me to my childhood, to my mother’s arms. It was a moment when all the strength, all the greatness, all the love of all the mothers before me was transformed into one perfect moment in which I for the first time understood the meaning of that so often and lightly spoken word, that cannot be explained, it must be experienced.

Like never before it smells like mom’s kitchen. It smells like nostalgia. The present moment is the best, I know and feel it, yet I sail sometimes through some past times… We grow up remaining children all our lives, we dread ragging and harsh looks, we long for words of approval, understanding, for impeccable love, full of acceptance. It smells like the quinces of my childhood. The warm hands that guided me through life. I drank water from that source of memory and I set out on the path of freedom… The time of change is coming, the time for the footsteps of my steps to be filled with soft, bare, children’s feet…

Tijana Stupljanin

Panta rei… Sve prolazi, sve se menja…/Panta rei… Everything passes, everything changes…

Nemoj se plašiti da izgubiš! U životu nekada nam se čini da nemamo dovoljno, da nikome nije dovoljno stalo do nas, da ne vredimo dovoljno, da ne dobijamo dovoljno… Istina je da imamo samo onoliko koliko smo spremni da damo, da je drugima stalo onoliko koliko je nama samima stalo do nas samih, da vredimo samo onoliko koliko volimo, da dobijamo onoliko koliko možemo da podnesemo.

Život je kao reka, on stalno teče i menja se, jedina konstanta tog kretanja si ti sam. Stoga, ako hoćeš da živiš ispunjen i srećan život, treba i ti da tečeš, da se prilagodiš, naviješ na ritam reke i menjaš. Uhvatiš ritam života i tečeš, skrećeš i okrećeš se onako kako se on uvija, krivuda i teče. Kada postaneš dobar plivač spoznaćeš i svoju kreatorsku moć i shvatiti da ta reka koja te nosi nije stihijska bujica, bez smisla i cilja. Ti si taj koji joj dubiš i oblikuješ korito, određuješ pravac i cilj kretanja. Smisao života si ti!

Život je konstantna promena, poput reke, neprestano teče. Ukoliko mu se opireš, samo se zamaraš i stojiš u mestu, tek kada se prepustiš životnoj sili osetiš punu draž življenja, a nagrada je kada se probudiš u osvit zore, umiješ lice i shvatiš da se tvoja životna reka uliva u more ljubavi…

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Do not be afraid to lose! In life, sometimes, it seems like we don’t have enough, that nobody truly cares about us, that we are not worth enough, that we don’t get enough… The truth is, we have only as much as we are prepared to give, the others care about us as much as we care for ourselves, we are worth as much as we love, we get exactly as much as we can handle.

Life is like a river, constantly flowing and changing, the only constant of that movement is yourself. Thus, if you want to live fulfilled and happy life you should flow as well, adjust, tune yourself up to the rhythm of the river and change. You catch the rhythm of life and flow, you twist and turn the way life curls, curves and flows. When you become a good swimmer, you will realize your creative power and you’ll understand that the river that carries you is not accidental flood, with no sense and purpose. You are the one who carves and shapes its bedrock, designate the way and purpose of its movement. The purpose of life is you!

Life is a never-ending change, like the river, it constantly flows. If you resist to it, you will only get tired and stay at the same place, but when you surrender to the force of life, you feel the full delight of living, and the reward is that when you wake up at the first dawn, wash your face and realize that your river of life flows into the sea of ​​love…

Život teče sam od sebe / Life flows on its own

Gledam svog malog andjela kako slatko spava, napućila je ustašca, ručice podigla visoko iznad glave, nešto sanja…

Razmišljam danima o svim strahovima, nadama, željama i opet strahovima, o sebi, o prošlosti i budućnosti, o životu. I kao i uvek u takvim trenucima, nemirnog sam uma, misli igraju svoju igru sumnje i zabluda, srce se plaši. Sve procenjujem, sve vagam. Više u telu nego u duši živim taj raspolućeni život i čekam da oluja prođe, da se misli stišaju, razbistre, da mogu neku pouku da izvučem, neku novu lekciju otpišem…

Sve počinje iznutra, iz jezgra, iz suštine i kad sazri pronadje svoj put napolje, izbije na površinu…

To mi daje i snagu i nadu da istrajem, da zaronim u sebe i počupam sav korov koji me pritiska i vuče ka dnu, jer znam da ću okupana svetlošću svoje duše izroniti jača, čistija i bolja.

A život teče, po nekom svom naumu i redu, i istrpi, na kraju, sve prepreke, sva skretanja koja mu nudim, iz straha da ne zalutam, iz buke uma koju ne mogu uvek da ugušim, tek po nekoj slutnji utišanog srca, čujem njegov šum koji me doziva da mu se prepustim. Vraćam mu se, na sreću, uvek, jer život je veći od nas samih i dešava se bili mi spremni ili ne.

Ranije sam mislila da je život težak, tako sam slušala valjda od starijih, i mislila sam da mu se treba suprotstavljati, boriti se za ono što želim po svaku cenu… Neke cene su ipak bile preskupe, a želje pogrešno protumačene. Istina je u staroj poslovici “sila Boga ne moli”, jer suprotstavljajući se tom toku, sputavamo i svoje želje i udaljavamo se od Boga i njegove zamisli. Dugo mi je trebalo da shvatim i prihvatim, istinu koju sam oduvek slutila iskonskom pameću, da je Bog ustvari dobar i da nam je namenio mnogo više i bolje nego što možemo da zamislimo ograničenim umom, zastrašenim srcem, ovim vremenom i prostorom.

A naša duša, naš suštinski život, beskonačan je i neuhvatljiv. O njemu su svi naši snovi, sve nade. On je od čiste mašte sazdan. Potrebno je samo voleti i verovati…

Zato večeras grlim svoju dušu, ljubim svoj život i zahvaljujem Bogu na svemu… i molim se da me ne napusti, ni sad, ni ikad, jer jedina stalna borba koju vredi voditi u ovom životu jeste borba za stišavanje uma i jačanje vere u sam život.

Celivam te poljupcima svoga srca!

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I am watching my little angel sleep sweetly, she has puffed her tiny mouth, raised her arms high above her head, she is dreaming something…

I am thinking for days now about all the fears, hopes, desires and again fears, about myself, about the past and the future, about life. And as always in such moments, my mind is restless, thoughts play their game of doubt and delusion, the heart is afraid. I evaluate everything, I weigh everything. I live that half-through life more in my body than in my soul and I am waiting for the storm to pass, for my thoughts to calm down, for me to clear up, for me to learn a lesson, to write off another lesson…

It all starts from the inside, from the core, from the essence and when it matures it finds its way out, it comes to the surface…

It gives me both strength and hope to persevere, to dive into myself and pull out all the weeds that presses me and drags me to the bottom, because I know that bathed in the light of my soul, I will emerge stronger, purer and better.

And life flows, fallowing his own plan and order, and endures, in the end, all obstacles, all the turning points I offer him, fearing of getting lost, out of the noise of the mind that I can’t always suffocate. Only by some intuition of a quiet heart, I hear his noise calling me to surrender to him. Fortunately, I always come back to him, because life is bigger than ourselves and it happens whether we are ready or not.

Some costs, however, were too high, and the wishes were misinterpreted. The truth is in the old proverb “the power does not pray the God “, because by opposing that flow, we also restrain our desires and distance ourselves from the God and his idea. It took me a long time to understand and accept, the truth that I have always sensed in the primordial mind, that the God is actually good and has intended for us far more and much better things than we can imagine with our limited mind, a frightened heart, with this time and space.

And our soul, our essential life, is infinite and elusive. All our dreams, all our hopes are about it. It is made out of pure imagination. You just have to love and believe…

So tonight, I am hugging my soul, I am loving my life and I thank the God for everything… and I pray that he does not leave me, not now or ever, because the only constant struggle worth fighting in this life is the struggle to calm the mind and strengthen the faith in life itself.

I am kissing you with the kisses of my heart!

Tijana Stupljanin

Upoznaj samoga sebe / Get to know yourself

Koliko je mala jedna kap vode iz okeana, a opet sadrži u sebi ceo okean. Šta je kap mog postojanja u odnosu na okean života? Kako to lepo kaže Cesarić:

Taj san u slapu da bi mogo sjati,
I moja kaplja pomaže ga tkati.

Ja verujem u sebe. Verujem u prirodu i u Boga, kao bezgraničnu, savršenu, vanvremensku energiju, koja ima svoj cilj i svoje principe. Ona na jednom višem nivou uređuje ovaj svet i pravi ravnotežu. Verujem u kosmičku pravdu i njene zakone koji su isti za sve. Posmatrano iz te perspektive svi smo mi samo broj na mapi bezbrojnih života, ali verujući u sebe i gradeći svoj život svom svojom energijom i voljom, činimo da se i naš broj računa.

Ko sam ja? Koliko puta sam sebi postavila ovo pitanje. Da li sam ja ono što mislim da jesam? Nisam sigurna, jer u svojim mislima sam mnogo više, i hrabra i pametna i pravedna i velikodušna i samouverena i sposobna i spretna i još mnogo toga što su me učili da treba da budem i o čemu sam čitala da su vrline koje uvek vrede, koje su na ceni  i za koje se nekada plaćalo čak i životom. Istina je da su to sve ideali kojima težim i za koje sam sigurna da su izraz duhovnosti i čovečnosti koje su vredne življenja, ali je isto tako istina da tek pred velikim izazovom, u izvanrednim situacijama koje u deliću sekunde mogu zauvek promeniti naš život, naš svet, zaista spoznajemo svoju suštinu i za šta smo sve sposobni. Ako u takvim trenucima uspemo da prepoznamo delić večnosti i iskonske Božanske ljubavi u nama, na dobrom smo putu spoznaje i možda jednoga dana naši ideali postanu deo nas.

Kada izgubiš srce u bezgraničnoj ljubavi, dobijaš beskonačnu radost svog bića. Kada izgubiš iluziju onoga sto misliš da ti treba, dobiješ baš ono što želiš. Kada izgubiš ideju o tome ko misliš da jesi i šta treba da budeš, dobijaš sebe na dar.

Ja sam jedan nesavršeni deo celine, a celina je moj savršeni deo…

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How small is one drop of water from the ocean, and yet it contains the whole ocean. What is the drop of my existence in relation to the ocean of life? As Cesarić[i] nicely says:

That dream in the waterfall to be able to shine,

My little drop too helps weave it.

I believe in myself. I believe in nature and in God, as a boundless, perfect, timeless energy, which has its goal and its principles. It regulates this world on a higher level and creates balance. I believe in cosmic justice and its laws that are the same for everyone. Viewed from that perspective, we are all just a number on the map of countless lives, but by believing in ourselves and building our lives with all our energy and will, we seem to count our number as well.

Who I am? How many times have I asked myself this question. Am I what I think I am? I’m not sure, because in my mind I’m much more, brave and smart and just and generous and confident and capable and skilful and much more of what they taught me that I should be and what I read are the virtues that always have worth, for which the price was once paid even with life itself. It is true that these are all ideals that I strive for and that I am sure are an expression of spirituality and humanity that are worth living for, but it is also true that only before a great challenge, in extraordinary situations that can change our lives, our world, forever, we really realize our essence and what we are capable of. If in such moments we manage to recognize a part of eternity and primordial Divine love in us, we are on a good path of knowing and maybe one day our ideals will become a part of us.

When you lose your heart in boundless love, you gain the infinite joy of your being. When you lose the illusion of what you think you need, you get exactly what you want. When you lose the idea of who you think you are and what you should be, you get yourself as a gift.

I am an imperfect part of the whole, and the whole is my perfect part …


[i] Dobriša Cesarić (10 January 1902 – 18 December 1980) was a Croatian poet and translator born in Požega.

Tik-Tak / Tick-Tack

Gledala sam u minute koje je brojao mali crni brk… kako vreme sporo prolazi kada ga posmatraš sa pažnjom! Da li je to tako i u životu? Čekajući da mi se nešto dogodi hodala sam hodnicima prošlosti, u bunilu, u snu… Razbijeno ogledalo čežnje, ljubavi koja dolazi-odlazi-počinje-prolazi, ali uvek isto boli, gledalo me je bez milosti. Nisam mogla više da slušam kako minuti prolaze, kako dani odmiču bez mene, a toliko toga sam htela da završim i započnem. Zgrabila sam jaknu i pojurila niz ulicu. Slušala sam ritam svojih koraka, udisala duboko svež vazduh, pogledala na nebo uramljeno oblacima i kupolama starih zgrada iz nekog dalekog vremena… Uviđam koliko je vreme relativno, ove ulice i trgovi su tu već decenijama, a sada, sada smo svi tu, u ovome trenutku prelamaju se vekovi.

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I watched the minutes counted by the little black mustache… how time passes slowly when you look at it carefully! Is that so in life? Waiting for something to happen to me, I walked the corridors of the past, in a trance, in a dream… A broken mirror of longing, of love that comes-goes-starts-passes, but it always hurts the same, looked at me without mercy. I could no longer listen to the minutes go by, how the days go by without me, while I wanted to finish and start so much. I grabbed my jacket and hurried down the street. I listened to the rhythm of my footsteps, took a deep breath of fresh air, looked at the sky framed by clouds and domes of old buildings from some distant time… I can sense how relative time is, these streets and squares have been here for ages, and now, now we are all here, in this moment where centuries intersect.

Tijana Stupljanin