Ti možeš sve / You can do anything

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“Prebaci srce preko trapeza, a tvoje telo će krenuti za njim.“ / “Throw your heart over the trapeze and your body will follow.”

– Iz knjige Bernija S. Zigela „Mir, ljubav i lečenje“ / From the book “Love, Medicine and Miracles” by Bernie S. Siegel

Ti možeš sve! Baš sve što poželiš, možeš i da ostvariš. Savršeno si biće, što ga beskonačni um stvori, u tebi su isprepleteni vekovi ljudske muke i mudrosti. Ti si čitav jedan svet.

Mada mi kažu da sam tvrdoglava kao da je to nešto loše, ja se nadam da se nikada neću promeniti. Koliko sam se samo nervirala kada mi tata kaže da sam tvrdoglava kao magarac! Međutim, došao je trenutak u mom životu kada sam svim srcem zahvaljivala Bogu na tom daru tvrdoglavosti, tj. upornosti. Ta tvrdoglavost mi je možda spasila život. Ona me je više puta terala da ostanem svoja po svaku cenu, da se ne povedem za društvom, da budem dosledna u svojim principima, da sačuvam sebe, ono najbolje što mi je dato u životu. Jer najvrednije što imam, dobila sam već rodjenjem, vrisnuli su svi moji preci i svaki je hteo da baš njegov gen nastavi večitu bitku sa životom, i ako je baš taj uporni gen tvrdoglavosti uspeo da se probije i obeleži moj život, neka to ne bude uzalud! Na kraju, samo uporni stižu do cilja.

I zato volim, mada to nije lako za roditelja, kada vidim trag te tvrdoglavosti u mom detetu i nadam se da će i nju ta osobina spasavati od mnogih iskušenja života i odvesti do svih ciljeva koje sebi postavi.

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You can do anything! Just anything you wish, you can achieve. You are a perfect being, created by the unlimited mined, centuries of human torment and wisdom all wrap around inside of you. You are one whole world.

Although people say to me that I am stubborn like it is a bad thing, I hope I will stay this way forever. I remember being so frustrated when my dad used to tell me that I am stubborn as a mule! However, there came a period of my life when I was thankful for that gift of stubbornness, i.e. persistence. That stubbornness maybe saved my life. More than once, it made me stay true to myself no matter what, it made me not to go with the crowd, to be persistent with my own beliefs, to preserve myself, the very best thing I was given to in life. Because the most valuable thing I own was already given to me with birth, all my ancestors roared and each one of them wanted for their very gene to continue eternal battle with life, and if that persistent gene of stubbornness managed to break through and mark my life, let it not be in vain! In the end, only the persistent reach the finish line.

This is why I love the glimpse of that stubbornness in my daughter, although it doesn’t come easy on a parent, and I hope this attribute will save her as well from all kinds of temptations in life and lead her to the fulfillment of all the goals she sets up for herself.

Tijana

I kada nije potrebna, majka je uvek poželjna…/ Even when not needed, a mother is always welcomed…

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Kada prvi put zakoračiš u novi život, probijajući se prvim bojažljivim udahom u naručje majke, objavljujući na sva zvona, snažnim plačem – ja sam tu, pokaži mi, nauči me, vodi me, voli me!

To je trenutak u kome se rodi nešto što je teško opisati, teško je i shvatiti, ali je lako prihvatiti. Vanvremenska, neraskidiva veza dve duše, dva života; rađa se čovek, nastaje majka i ceo svet se menja.

Majka sam sada već dve devojčice. Prvi put kada sam tu misao konstatovala, nasmejala sam se u sebi poput neke šiparice, hihihi, ja majka, majka dvoje dece, to zvuči tako ozbiljno! Pogledam se u ogledalo i vidim sebe, ali to više nisam samo ja, sada sam i žena i majka i rastem ispunjena tom mišlju kao što rastu i ove grudi majčinske, svakim danom sve više.

Kada sam prvi put postala majka plakale smo i beba i ja, ja često i više nego ona, a sada, kao iskusna majka, plačem više u sebi, pa se brzo trgnem i prisetim da nemam kad da plačem, da je to samo trenutak nerazumevanja koje će proći.

I tako mnoge stvari ostaju za kasnije, ostavljajući više mesta za ljubav, nežnost, razumevanje i igru.

Hvala ti Bože na majkama (hvala i tebi mama što si baš moja mama), a hvala ti i na deci (ne znam šta bih bez njih, ustvari znam, ali sa njima život dobija još jednu dimenziju sa kojom ništa ne može da se poredi).

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When you make that very first step into a new life, breaking through into the mother’s embrace with your first trembling breath, proclaiming to the world with that powerful cry of yours – here I am, show me, teach me, lead me, love me!

In that moment, something hard to explain, hard even to conceive, yet easy to accept, is born. A timeless, unbreakable bond of two souls, two lives; a human being is born, one becomes mother and the whole world changes.

Now I am already a mother of two little girls. The first time I had acknowledged that thought, I laughed to myself like a silly girl, me a mother, hihihi, a mother of two sounds so serious! I look at the mirror and I see me, only that’s not just me now, now I am a women as well as a mother and I rise filled with that thought like these motherly breasts of mine, more and more with each day.

When I had my firs baby, we both cried, me often more than her, and now as an experienced mother I cry on the inside, then quickly pull myself together and remember that I have no time to cry, that it is just a moment of misunderstanding that shall pass.

And so there it is, a lot of stuff is left for later, leaving more space for love, tenderness, understanding and fun.

Thank you God for mothers (thank you mom for being my mom), and thank you for the kids too (I don’t know what I would do without them, well, actually I do know, but with them a life gets a new dimension that’s beyond compare with everything else).

 

Budi posmatrač / Be the observer

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Zatvori oči i kreni. Opipavaj u svom ritmu svoje unutrašnje biće, dok ne stigneš do onog udobnog, savršenog mesta gde je sve dobro, lepo, toplo i beskrajno. Nekome pomaže da se zamisli na svom omiljenom mestu, neko se priseća svog najlepšeg momenta sa nekim koga voli, neko poslednjeg trenutka sreće, šta god pomaže u redu je. Kada smo na tom našem mestu, dišemo fino, lagano, počinjemo da primećujemo kako nam srce kuca i tu počinje posmatranje…

Posmatramo sve što se dešava, u nama, na nama, oko nas. Sve je kao na filmskom platnu, a mi smo u udobnoj stolici, opušteni, ali budni, gledamo film.

Postoje različite tehnike, razni učitelji, ali to je ukratko suština meditacije, sedeti u miru i tišini sa sobom i svojim okruženjem i samo posmatrati sve doživljaje kao da nisu naši. Primećuješ, naravno, naleteo je povetarac, mačka je zamjaukala, deca su izašla na odmor, komšija se tušira, utrnula ti je noga, postaje vruće i sl… Suština je da nas ti doživljaji ili događaji ne pogađaju, da ne izazivaju osećanja i misli.

Naravno da nije lako biti samo posmatrač sebe i svog života. Potrebna je vežba, kao za bilo koju veštinu, i upornost. Možda je neko uspeo iz prve? Ja nisam, razmišljala sam uvek puno i o svemu, a kada i uspem da utišam misli iskočila bi neka pesma koje nisam mogla da se otarasim. Srećom, imala sam dobrog učitelja i vežbala sam u kontinuitetu. Iako ne meditiram često, puno mi znači što brzo mogu da stignem na to svoje sveto mesto gde je sve savršeno mirno i ispunjeno ljubavlju, a iz takve pozicije i tihog uma, svaka situacija izgleda bolje i rešenja dolaze brže.

Često u životu ne vidimo šumu od drveća, a često je potrebno iskoračiti iz događaja koji nas okupira i što je više emocija u tom događaju i što su emocije jače, to nam je taj iskorak potrebniji da bismo sagledali širu sliku, umirili osećanja i svoje misli i doneli odluku iz srca, tj. centra svog bića. Takva odluka će možda podići nekoliko leptirića u stomaku, ali nas neće uzburkati, prosto će nam leći i otvoriće se nova vrata i prozori sa svežim izborima i beskrajnim mogućnostima.

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Close your eyes and let’s go. In your own rhythm feel your inner being, until you reach that cozy, perfect place where everything is good, beautiful, warm and endless. For some people it helps to imagine their special place, for someone it is a memory of a wonderful moments spent with someone they love, others think about the last time they were happy, whatever helps it is fine. When we are at that place of ours, we breathe nicely, slowly, we start to notice our heart beats and that’s where the observation begins…

We observe everything that happens inside of us, on our body, around us. Everything is as on a movie screen and we are in a comfy chair, relaxed but awake, watching a movie.

There are different techniques and various teachers, however this is in short the essence of meditation, sitting in peace and quiet with oneself and the surroundings and merely observe experiences as if they do not belong to us. You will notice, of course, the breeze just went by, the cat meowed, the kids just went out on a school break, the neighbor is taking a shower, your leg just went numb, it is getting pretty warm and so on… The key is not to give those experiences and occurrences a significance, don’t allow them to trigger any emotions or thoughts.

Being just an observer of yourself and your life is not an easy task for sure. It takes practice and endurance, as any skill. Maybe someone has succeeded right away? I did’t, I was always thinking about everything and anything, and even when I managed to calm my brain down, a song would pop up out of nowhere and just refused to go away. Luckily, I had a great teacher and I was practicing continuously. Although I do not meditate often, it means a world to me that I can swiftly reach that holy place of mine, where everything is perfectly calm and filled with love, and from such a perspective and a quiet mind, every situation looks better and the solutions come faster.

More often in our lives we fail to see the forest for the trees and many times it is necessary to step out from the event that occupies us. The more emotional the event is and the stronger the emotions are, there is a greater necessity to make that step and perceive the bigger picture, calm down our emotions and thoughts and make a decision from within our heart i.e. from the center of our being. That kind of decision will, perhaps, rise a few butterflies in our stomach, but it will never upset us, it will simply fall into place and open up a new doors and windows of fresh choices and infinite possibilities.

Život je stvar izbora/Life is a matter of choice

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Nijedan put kojim se zaputimo u životu nije uzaludan, niti je izabran slučajno i bez razloga. Iz svega učimo i u svemu treba da vidimo smisao – širu sliku. Sve ima svoje značenje i mesto na našem putovanju. Ponovo se vraćam stazom znakova pored puta…

Jedan profesor mi je jednom rekao da sami biramo kakvi ćemo biti. Zamislila sam se tada nad tom rečenicom i puno toga shvatila. Ništa nije dato, mi možemo uticati na sve da se promeni i dobije željeni oblik.

Počnimo oblikujući sebe, onako kako želimo, kako će nam biti lagodno u sopstvenoj koži. Počnimo sa tim željenim životom sada, ne čekajući idealne uslove ili da se nešto samo od sebe pojavi. Postavimo sami prilike, iznesimo svoje karte na sto – get dressed for success, a ostalo možemo prepustiti Bogu/Univerzumu/Životu…

Samo usklađeni sa samim sobom možemo promeniti svoj svet. Sami biramo reči kojima ćemo ispisati knjigu svoga života.

Sa verom i ljubavlju živimo život bez straha, do poslednjeg daha.

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Neither path that we choose in life is in vain, nor it is chosen randomly and with no reason. We learn from everything and we should see sense in everything – the big picture. All the things have their place and meaning along our journey. I return again to the lane of the signs aside the road…

A professor once said to me that we ourselves choose the way we are going to be. That sentence got me thinking and I learned a lot from it. Nothing is ever written in stone, we can influence everything to change and get the desired form.

Let’s start with shaping ourselves, the way we want, in a way that we feel most comfortable with in our own skin. Let’s start that desired life right away, let’s not wait for perfect circumstances or for things just to happen. We can make our own chances, set out our cards on the table – get dressed for success, and the rest put into the hands of God/Universe/Life…

Only aligned with our self we can change our world. We alone choose the words with which we will write the book of our life.

With faith and love we live our life with no fear, until the last breath.

 

Ogledalo/The Mirror

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 Magic mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all?

– The Brothers Grimm, “Snow White”

Magično ogledalce moje, reci na svetu najlepši ko je?

– Braća Grim, “Snežana i sedam patuljaka”

Kada izađeš iz sebe i pogledaš se tuđim očima, da li ti se sviđa osoba koju gledaš? Odgovor uvek treba da bude DA!

Osnovno pravilo – Ne trudi se da budeš onakav kakav misliš da ćeš se drugima svideti! Nikada nećeš postići da se svima svidiš i da te svi cene i vole.

Drugo osnovno pravilo – Trudi se uvek da budeš onakav kakav ćeš se sebi svideti.

Jedina osoba sa kojom treba da se poredimo je naš ideal o sebi samima. To je onaj superheroj koji se krije negde u našoj podsvesti, a od koga crpimo snagu, elan, samopouzdanje, hrabrost i sve one osobine koje su nama važne i kojima stalno stremimo.

Možda jedino iskreno prijateljstvo je ono sa samim sobom. A kada uspeš da budeš zadovoljan sobom i uspeš da dosegneš neki svoj ideal ličnosti i drugi će to umeti da prepoznaju i cene, a tebi više neće biti ni važno njihovo mišljenje.

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When you step out of yourself and see you through someone’s else eyes, do you like who you see? The answer should always be YES!

Main principle – Don’t try to be the person you think other people would like! You will never succeed to be liked by everyone and for everyone to appreciate you and love you.

The other grand rule – Always try to be the person that you would like.

The only person we should compare ourselves to is our own ideal about who we should be. It is that superhero who we hide somewhere in our subconsciousness mind, from who we drive our power, inspiration, self-confidence, courage and all the attributes that are important to us and we keep striving to attain them.

The only true friendship, maybe, is that one you have with yourself. And when you succeed in reaching some of yours personal ideal, other people will know to recognize that and appreciate it but you will no longer care what their opinion really is.

Ringišpil života / Life’s carousel

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Život je jedan šareni ringišpil. Čas si na vrhu i rukama možeš da opipaš nebo, a već sledećeg trenutka udišeš prašinu. Često ti je muka od svega i samo želiš da sve stane, da siđeš, ali ipak ponovo se penješ i vrtiš, vrtiš, vrtiš u krug i gore i dole i kad ti se najviše vrti u glavi vrištiš od sreće i zadovoljstva i osećaš se kao na krilima neke ptice sa kojom letiš i nemisleći kuda, samo osećaš da si zadovoljan tu gde jesi.

Bez obzira koliko bilo i mučno i teško, makar i zarad samo jednog takvog trenutka spokojstva, radosti i slobode, vredi se uvek iznova vraćati tom ringišpilu boja i života.

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Life is one colorful carousel. In a second you are on the top of it and you can touch the sky with your hands, and yet at the next moment you can breathe the dust. You are often sick of everything and you just want everything to stop, you are ready to go down, but still you climb and spin again, you spin and spin in a circle and up and down and when everything in your head is spinning the most you scream with happiness and pleasure, and you feel like you are on the wings of a bird you fly with and not thinking where, you just feel satisfied where you are.

No matter how painful and difficult it may be, even if only for the sake of just such a moment of serenity, joy and freedom, it is always worth returning to that carousel of colors and life.

Tijana Stupljanin

Ljubav je važna / Love is essential

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Ceo svet može da vas voli, ali vas ta ljubav neće usrećiti. Ono što će vas usrećiti jeste da podelite svu ljubav koja se krije u vama. To je ljubav koja je važna.

The whole world can love you, but that love will not make you happy. The thing that will make you happy is to share all the love hidden within you. That’s the love that matters.

Don Miguel Ruiz

Znaš onaj momenat kada voljena osoba uđe u prostoriju i ona sva zablista, jednostavno sve se ozari, a najviše ti sam. To je trenutak kada vreme uspori svoje disanje, kada sve što radiš, radiš bez napora, bez umora, bez bola, sve je u savršenoj harmoniji. On ti prilazi, spušta dah na tvoje usne, kao da se budiš iz stogodišnjeg sna i više nikada ne moraš da zažmuriš, jer tvoj san je java.

U ljubavi želim bajku! Želim da dotaknem sve svetle trenutke života, da se ogrejem o čestice prefinjene, tanane sreće, koje vidimo samo ja i moja zaljubljena duša. Želim da se ogledam u očima lepšim od svake lepote, sjajnijim od bisera i većim od svake dobrote. Hrabriju, pametniju, bolju osobu od sebe tražim, da je volim i da svetlim u trenucima čiste sreće u njegovoj duši od ljubavi što plamti, što stvara život i tka san o nas dvoje i večnoj sreći, jer smo jedno drugom sve, i dan i noć i zvezde i sunce i pun mesec u tamnoj noći…

Ljubav je sve.

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You know that moment when your loved one enters the room and the whole room lights up, everything simply shines, and you the most. In that instant the time slows its breathing and everything that you are doing, you do it effortlessly, tirelessly, painlessly, with everything in a perfect harmony. He approaches, leans his breath on your lips, it’s like you are waking up from the hundred years of sleep and you don’t have to close your eyes ever again, because your dream is now reality.

From love, I want a fairytale! I want to touch all the bright moments of life and to warm up on that refined particles of tiny happiness visible only to me and my soul in love. I wish to mirror myself in the eyes more beautiful than any beauty, shiner than pearls and greater than any kindness. I look for braver, smarter, better person than I am, to love and to shine in the moments of pure bliss in his soul flaming with love, that creates life and weaves the dream about the two of us and the eternal happiness, for, one to another we are everything, the day and the night and the stars and the sun and full moon in the darkest night…

Love is all.

Tijana Stupljanin

Zlatna sredina / Golden middle

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Za sve je u životu potrebna širina. I da se misli i da se voli i da se shvati i razume, i da se čovek oslobodi ovozemaljskih stega. Uzleteti i ostati negde između duha i tela, putenosti i večnosti. “Sve što činiš čini u slavu Boga.” Lepo zvuči, a možda je i moguće. Ako bismo  dušu poistovetili sa božanskim, kao nečim što je bezgranično, besmrtno i bezgrešno, onda bi recept bio jednostavan: hrani svoju dušu i bićeš bliže Bogu. A šta sa telom? Ništa ne postoji uzalud. Sredina se nameće kao jedino rešenje. Svemu naći meru. Sve što telo traži, mora da ima svoj oslonac ili svrhu u duši, da bi postojala ravnoteža. Nije to ni tako teško kao što na prvi pogled možda izgleda. Jer kada bi samo hranili i zadovoljavali telo, možda bismo neko vreme mislili da nam je super, ali vremenom bismo shvatili, tj. priznali sebi da hranimo prazninu koja postaje sve veća, na mestu gde je nekada obitavala duša. Zato ima puno ljudi koji naizgled imaju sve, ali nisu srećni, ili jesu, naizgled.
 
Duša bez tela može, a može li telo bez duše? Moje je mišljenje da je svaka forma bez sadržine beskorisna i glupa, a sve što postoji ima svoju svrhu i smisao…
 
Jasno je da mora postojati i duh i telo, tama i svetlo, noć i dan, dobro i loše, radost i tuga… To je život koji traje uprkos svemu. Uništenje i stvaranje, i čovek u središtu svega. Bog nam je zato dao i dušu i telo, da naučimo da balansiramo, da ne dozvolimo telu da pokvari dušu. Za to je potrebno iskustvo i sloboda duha, moć saznanja i samospoznaje, otvorene oči ali i srce. Istina je jedna: jedan čovek, jedna duša, jedan život, jedna sudbina, jedan smisao za svakoga od nas. Kad pronađeš svoj smisao reći ću ti ko sam.

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Everything in life require width. For thinking and loving and for understanding and comprehending and for freeing oneself from the earthly restraints. Take off and stay somewhere between the spirit and the body, sensuality and eternity. “Everything you do is done for the glory of God.” Sounds nice, and maybe it’s possible. If we would identify the soul with the divine, as something that is boundless, immortal and sinless, then the recipe would be simple: feed your soul and you will be closer to God. And what about the body? Nothing exists in vain. The environment is imposed as the only solution. Find a measure in everything. Everything that the body seeks must have its support or purpose in the soul, so there would be the balance. It’s not even as difficult as it may seem at first glance. Because if we would just feed and satisfy the body, we might think that it is great for a while, but in time we would understand, that is, admit to ourselves that we are feeding a void that is growing in a place where the soul once resided. That’s why there are a lot of people who seem to have everything, but they are not happy, or seemingly are.

A soul without a body can exist, but can a body be without a soul? It is my opinion that every form without content is useless and stupid, and everything that exists has its purpose and meaning…

It is clear that there must be the spirit as well as the body, the darkness and the light, the night and the day, the good and the bad, the joy and the sorrow… It is a life that goes on in spite of everything. Destruction and creation and the man at the center of everything. That is why God gave us both the soul and the body, to learn to balance, not to allow the body to corrupt the soul. This requires experience and freedom of spirit, the power of knowledge and self-understanding, open eyes but also an open heart. There is the one truth: one man, one soul, one life, one destiny, one meaning for each of us. When you find your meaning I’ll tell you who I am.

Tijana Stupljanin

Zvezda padalica / Shooting star

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Zamisli želju, ali moraš uzjahati svoju zvezdu padalicu… Tek kada moje srce svom snagom nešto zaželi, a moj razum to prihvati kao dobro i sve emocije su pozitivne, sa dozom straha koji mi poručuje da je to nešto vredno truda, nešto veliko što mi na momente deluje nedostižno, volja zadaje konačan udarac, a moj um se oslobađa i čini sve da ispuni tu želju i postigne cilj.

Čovek je slobodan kada probije sve granice koje je sam sebi nametnuo, kada se ne plaši, kada se ne brine, kada može sve što zamisli, jer ne razmišlja o preprekama, već o mogućnostima, o izborima. Kada izađe iz svoje ušuškanosti i navika i počne da istražuje i kreira.

Kreiraj svoj život od želja svoje duše i pusti mašti na volju. Rođeni smo sa zvezdama u očima, nogama što po zemlji hode, srcem koje doseže zvezde… Pronađi svoju zvezdu padalicu i otkrij svet beskonačnih mogućnosti. Nije potrebno mnogo želeti, dovoljna je i jedna iskrena želja kojoj se celo biće već raduje i sa radošću prima njeno ispunjenje.

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Make a wish, but you have to ride your shooting star… Only when my heart desires something with all its strength, and my mind accepts it as good and all emotions are positive, with a dose of fear that tells me that it is something worth the effort, something great that at times seems unattainable, the will gives the final blow, and my mind frees itself and does everything to fulfill that desire and achieve the goal.

Man is free when he breaks all the boundaries he has imposed on himself, when he is not afraid, when he does not worry, when he can do everything he imagines, because he does not think about obstacles, but about possibilities, about choices. When he gets out of his clutter and habit and starts researching and creating.

Create your life from the desires of your soul and let your imagination run wild. We are born with the stars in our eyes, with feet that walk on the earth, and a heart that reaches the stars … Find your shooting star and discover the world of infinite possibilities. It is not necessary to wish much, one sincere wish is enough, which the whole being is already rejoicing to and joyfully receiving the fulfillment.

Tijana Stupljanin