Category: Ljubav, život, duša/Love, life, soul

Život je stvar izbora/Life is a matter of choice

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Nijedan put kojim se zaputimo u životu nije uzaludan, niti je izabran slučajno i bez razloga. Iz svega učimo i u svemu treba da vidimo smisao – širu sliku. Sve ima svoje značenje i mesto na našem putovanju. Ponovo se vraćam stazom znakova pored puta…

Jedan profesor mi je jednom rekao da sami biramo kakvi ćemo biti. Zamislila sam se tada nad tom rečenicom i puno toga shvatila. Ništa nije dato, mi možemo uticati na sve da se promeni i dobije željeni oblik.

Počnimo oblikujući sebe, onako kako želimo, kako će nam biti lagodno u sopstvenoj koži. Počnimo sa tim željenim životom sada, ne čekajući idealne uslove ili da se nešto samo od sebe pojavi. Postavimo sami prilike, iznesimo svoje karte na sto – get dressed for success, a ostalo možemo prepustiti Bogu/Univerzumu/Životu…

Samo usklađeni sa samim sobom možemo promeniti svoj svet. Sami biramo reči kojima ćemo ispisati knjigu svoga života.

Sa verom i ljubavlju živimo život bez straha, do poslednjeg daha.

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Neither path that we choose in life is in vain, nor it is chosen randomly and with no reason. We learn from everything and we should see sense in everything – the big picture. All the things have their place and meaning along our journey. I return again to the lane of the signs aside the road…

A professor once said to me that we ourselves choose the way we are going to be. That sentence got me thinking and I learned a lot from it. Nothing is ever written in stone, we can influence everything to change and get the desired form.

Let’s start with shaping ourselves, the way we want, in a way that we feel most comfortable with in our own skin. Let’s start that desired life right away, let’s not wait for perfect circumstances or for things just to happen. We can make our own chances, set out our cards on the table – get dressed for success, and the rest put into the hands of God/Universe/Life…

Only aligned with our self we can change our world. We alone choose the words with which we will write the book of our life.

With faith and love we live our life with no fear, until the last breath.

 

Ogledalo/The Mirror

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 Magic mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all?

– The Brothers Grimm, “Snow White”

Magično ogledalce moje, reci na svetu najlepši ko je?

– Braća Grim, “Snežana i sedam patuljaka”

Kada izađeš iz sebe i pogledaš se tuđim očima, da li ti se sviđa osoba koju gledaš? Odgovor uvek treba da bude DA!

Osnovno pravilo – Ne trudi se da budeš onakav kakav misliš da ćeš se drugima svideti! Nikada nećeš postići da se svima svidiš i da te svi cene i vole.

Drugo osnovno pravilo – Trudi se uvek da budeš onakav kakav ćeš se sebi svideti.

Jedina osoba sa kojom treba da se poredimo je naš ideal o sebi samima. To je onaj superheroj koji se krije negde u našoj podsvesti, a od koga crpimo snagu, elan, samopouzdanje, hrabrost i sve one osobine koje su nama važne i kojima stalno stremimo.

Možda jedino iskreno prijateljstvo je ono sa samim sobom. A kada uspeš da budeš zadovoljan sobom i uspeš da dosegneš neki svoj ideal ličnosti i drugi će to umeti da prepoznaju i cene, a tebi više neće biti ni važno njihovo mišljenje.

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When you step out of yourself and see you through someone’s else eyes, do you like who you see? The answer should always be YES!

Main principle – Don’t try to be the person you think other people would like! You will never succeed to be liked by everyone and for everyone to appreciate you and love you.

The other grand rule – Always try to be the person that you would like.

The only person we should compare ourselves to is our own ideal about who we should be. It is that superhero who we hide somewhere in our subconsciousness mind, from who we drive our power, inspiration, self-confidence, courage and all the attributes that are important to us and we keep striving to attain them.

The only true friendship, maybe, is that one you have with yourself. And when you succeed in reaching some of yours personal ideal, other people will know to recognize that and appreciate it but you will no longer care what their opinion really is.

Bajka / A Fairytale

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Ovo je moj život! Meni je dat kao redak dar i od mene zavisi kako ću ga upotrebiti. Ja sam taj umetnik koji će mu dati konačni oblik.

Živeti život ispunjen ljubavlju, divnim, dragim ljudima, istinskom lepotom življenja u jednostavnosti već datog sa neverovatnom lakoćom. Uživati u magiji svakodnevnih stvari, malih čistih trenutaka sreće i spokoja. To je moj film…

Zahteva trud, ali ne i težinu, mudrost je iskoristiti maksimalno prednosti onoga što nam je dato, bilo to naše okruženje ili naši talenti i veštine, a onda ih poboljšati, usavršiti, oplemeniti, tako ćemo lakše savladati i one stvari koje nam baš i ne idu od ruke. Važno je prihvatiti nesavršenost, jer to je ono što nas čini jedinstvenim. Možda je bolje reći da smo svi savršeni na poseban način. Meni su večita inspiracija i motivacija ljudi koji zrače pozitivnošću, a često imaju težak život; ljudi koji su ispunjeni onime što rade i rade to sa lakoćom, a postižu uspeh; ljudi koji se osećaju dobro u svojoj koži i imaju saosećanja za druge, oni koji te nateraju da se zamisliš, da se zapitaš o pravoj vrednosti života i da li je zaista shvataš i prihvataš.

Prestala sam da mislim da moram da uradim nešto, postignem nešto, ne, ne moram. Ništa ne moram. Za neke stvari prosto nisam sazdana, ali ono što imam, što posedujem, što je samo moje, treba da upotrebim, da koristim, da rastem.

Biću sasvim zadovoljna i srećna da vodim svoj život i svoju mladu porodicu putem koji sam sama odsanjala i da kroz neke male stvari dotaknem još nečiji život iskrom radosti i čuda koja se dešavaju svakodnevno i u koja verujem. Verujem u svoju bajku, a i ona veruje u mene.

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This is my life! It was given to me as a rare gift and it depends on me how I will use it. I am the artist who will give it the final shape.

To live a life filled with love, with wonderful, dear people, the true beauty of living in the simplicity that’s already given with incredible ease. Enjoy the magic of everyday things, small pure moments of happiness and serenity. This is my movie…

It requires effort, but not heaviness, wisdom is to make the most of what is given to us, be it our environment or our talents and skills, and then improve, perfect, refine them, so we can more easily master those things that do not really do well for us. It is important to accept imperfection, because that is what makes us unique. Perhaps it is better to say that we are all perfect in a special way. To me, the eternal inspiration and motivation are the people who radiate positivity, even they often have a difficult life; people who are filled with what they do and do it with ease and achieve success; people who feel good in their own skin and have compassion for others, those who make you think, make you ask yourself about the true value of life and whether you really understand and accept it.

I stopped thinking I have to do something, achieve something, no, I don’t have to. I don’t have to do anything. For some things I am simply not made for, but what I have, what I possess, which is only mine, I need to use, to employ, to grow.

I will be completely satisfied and happy to lead my life and my young family on the path I dreamed of myself and to touch someone else’s life through some small things with the spark of joy and miracles that happen every day and in which I believe. I believe in my fairy tale, and she also believes in me.

Tijana Stupljanin

Buđenje / Awakening

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Život je konstantna promena. Sve oko nas je u cikličnom kretanju, pa i svi procesi u našem telu takođe, i mi kao deo prirode imamo potencijal da se krećemo u tom ritmu. Ako uporedimo ljudsko telo i drvo, vidimo da su u kori drveta upisani godovi, kažu da kora drveta pamti, a isto se kaže i za ljudsku kožu, ipak jedno drvo u samo jednoj godini umre i ponovo se rodi, podari novo seme iz koga može da iznikne sasvim novo drvo, čak i iz posečenog drveta, ako ostane panj, može da nikne nova mladica. Svakoga dana u prirodi možemo videti milion “malih čuda”, zašto mislimo da se ta čuda ne mogu desiti i nama, zar nismo i mi deo te čarobne prirode? Činjenica je da će stresna situacija, povreda, teža bolest… ostaviti ožiljke u nama i po nama, ali je isto tako činjenica da mi sve to možemo prevazići i krenuti iz početka. Mislim da je ključ da se savkoga dana ispraznimo od svih negativnosti koje su nas dotakle toga dana, da se napunimo pozitivnom energijom, bilo kroz druženje sa prirodom ili druženje sa dobrom knjigom, filmom, muzikom, a najlepše je u zagrljaju voljene osobe, i onda zakoračiti u novi dan sveži i okupani dobrim snom, “kao ponovo rođeni” krenuti u novi dan otvorenog uma, otvorenog srca, ispunjeni ljubavlju! Sunce se ponovo rađa, sunce se svakog dana ponovo rađa!

Budi sunce, budi zvezdano nebo, budi reka koja preobražava sve u dobro…

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Life is a constant change. Everything around us is moving in cycles, all the processes in our body as well, and as a part of the nature, we too have the potential to move in that rhythm. Should we make a comparison between human body and a tree, we notice the rings imprinted in the bark of a tree, they say the bark of a tree has a memory and the same thing is said for the human skin. A tree dies and reborn all in a year, it gives a seed from which a new tree can sprout, even if the tree is cut down, if the stump remains, a new offspring will arise. Every day we can witness to a million “little wonders” in the nature, why do we think these wonders don’t happen to us too, aren’t we a part of that miraculous nature? The fact is that a stressful situation, an injury, a bad sickness… will leave scars within us and on us, but it is also a fact that we can overcome it all and start all over again. I think that the key is to clear from all the negativity we have encountered during a day, then to fill up with a good energy, whether from being in the nature or spending time in a company of a nice book, a movie, listening to a music, and the most beautifully in someone’s loving hug, and then step into a new day fresh and renewed with the good night sleep, “like a reborn” welcome a new day with an open mind, open heart, filled with love! The sun comes out again, the sun comes out again every day!

Be the sun, be the sky full of stars, be a river that transforms everything into good…

Ringišpil života / Life’s carousel

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Život je jedan šareni ringišpil. Čas si na vrhu i rukama možeš da opipaš nebo, a već sledećeg trenutka udišeš prašinu. Često ti je muka od svega i samo želiš da sve stane, da siđeš, ali ipak ponovo se penješ i vrtiš, vrtiš, vrtiš u krug i gore i dole i kad ti se najviše vrti u glavi vrištiš od sreće i zadovoljstva i osećaš se kao na krilima neke ptice sa kojom letiš i nemisleći kuda, samo osećaš da si zadovoljan tu gde jesi.

Bez obzira koliko bilo i mučno i teško, makar i zarad samo jednog takvog trenutka spokojstva, radosti i slobode, vredi se uvek iznova vraćati tom ringišpilu boja i života.

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Life is one colorful carousel. In a second you are on the top of it and you can touch the sky with your hands, and yet at the next moment you can breathe the dust. You are often sick of everything and you just want everything to stop, you are ready to go down, but still you climb and spin again, you spin and spin in a circle and up and down and when everything in your head is spinning the most you scream with happiness and pleasure, and you feel like you are on the wings of a bird you fly with and not thinking where, you just feel satisfied where you are.

No matter how painful and difficult it may be, even if only for the sake of just such a moment of serenity, joy and freedom, it is always worth returning to that carousel of colors and life.

Tijana Stupljanin

Ljubav je važna / Love is essential

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Ceo svet može da vas voli, ali vas ta ljubav neće usrećiti. Ono što će vas usrećiti jeste da podelite svu ljubav koja se krije u vama. To je ljubav koja je važna.

The whole world can love you, but that love will not make you happy. The thing that will make you happy is to share all the love hidden within you. That’s the love that matters.

Don Miguel Ruiz

Znaš onaj momenat kada voljena osoba uđe u prostoriju i ona sva zablista, jednostavno sve se ozari, a najviše ti sam. To je trenutak kada vreme uspori svoje disanje, kada sve što radiš, radiš bez napora, bez umora, bez bola, sve je u savršenoj harmoniji. On ti prilazi, spušta dah na tvoje usne, kao da se budiš iz stogodišnjeg sna i više nikada ne moraš da zažmuriš, jer tvoj san je java.

U ljubavi želim bajku! Želim da dotaknem sve svetle trenutke života, da se ogrejem o čestice prefinjene, tanane sreće, koje vidimo samo ja i moja zaljubljena duša. Želim da se ogledam u očima lepšim od svake lepote, sjajnijim od bisera i većim od svake dobrote. Hrabriju, pametniju, bolju osobu od sebe tražim, da je volim i da svetlim u trenucima čiste sreće u njegovoj duši od ljubavi što plamti, što stvara život i tka san o nas dvoje i večnoj sreći, jer smo jedno drugom sve, i dan i noć i zvezde i sunce i pun mesec u tamnoj noći…

Ljubav je sve.

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You know that moment when your loved one enters the room and the whole room lights up, everything simply shines, and you the most. In that instant the time slows its breathing and everything that you are doing, you do it effortlessly, tirelessly, painlessly, with everything in a perfect harmony. He approaches, leans his breath on your lips, it’s like you are waking up from the hundred years of sleep and you don’t have to close your eyes ever again, because your dream is now reality.

From love, I want a fairytale! I want to touch all the bright moments of life and to warm up on that refined particles of tiny happiness visible only to me and my soul in love. I wish to mirror myself in the eyes more beautiful than any beauty, shiner than pearls and greater than any kindness. I look for braver, smarter, better person than I am, to love and to shine in the moments of pure bliss in his soul flaming with love, that creates life and weaves the dream about the two of us and the eternal happiness, for, one to another we are everything, the day and the night and the stars and the sun and full moon in the darkest night…

Love is all.

Tijana Stupljanin

Zlatna sredina / Golden middle

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Za sve je u životu potrebna širina. I da se misli i da se voli i da se shvati i razume, i da se čovek oslobodi ovozemaljskih stega. Uzleteti i ostati negde između duha i tela, putenosti i večnosti. “Sve što činiš čini u slavu Boga.” Lepo zvuči, a možda je i moguće. Ako bismo  dušu poistovetili sa božanskim, kao nečim što je bezgranično, besmrtno i bezgrešno, onda bi recept bio jednostavan: hrani svoju dušu i bićeš bliže Bogu. A šta sa telom? Ništa ne postoji uzalud. Sredina se nameće kao jedino rešenje. Svemu naći meru. Sve što telo traži, mora da ima svoj oslonac ili svrhu u duši, da bi postojala ravnoteža. Nije to ni tako teško kao što na prvi pogled možda izgleda. Jer kada bi samo hranili i zadovoljavali telo, možda bismo neko vreme mislili da nam je super, ali vremenom bismo shvatili, tj. priznali sebi da hranimo prazninu koja postaje sve veća, na mestu gde je nekada obitavala duša. Zato ima puno ljudi koji naizgled imaju sve, ali nisu srećni, ili jesu, naizgled.
 
Duša bez tela može, a može li telo bez duše? Moje je mišljenje da je svaka forma bez sadržine beskorisna i glupa, a sve što postoji ima svoju svrhu i smisao…
 
Jasno je da mora postojati i duh i telo, tama i svetlo, noć i dan, dobro i loše, radost i tuga… To je život koji traje uprkos svemu. Uništenje i stvaranje, i čovek u središtu svega. Bog nam je zato dao i dušu i telo, da naučimo da balansiramo, da ne dozvolimo telu da pokvari dušu. Za to je potrebno iskustvo i sloboda duha, moć saznanja i samospoznaje, otvorene oči ali i srce. Istina je jedna: jedan čovek, jedna duša, jedan život, jedna sudbina, jedan smisao za svakoga od nas. Kad pronađeš svoj smisao reći ću ti ko sam.

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Everything in life require width. For thinking and loving and for understanding and comprehending and for freeing oneself from the earthly restraints. Take off and stay somewhere between the spirit and the body, sensuality and eternity. “Everything you do is done for the glory of God.” Sounds nice, and maybe it’s possible. If we would identify the soul with the divine, as something that is boundless, immortal and sinless, then the recipe would be simple: feed your soul and you will be closer to God. And what about the body? Nothing exists in vain. The environment is imposed as the only solution. Find a measure in everything. Everything that the body seeks must have its support or purpose in the soul, so there would be the balance. It’s not even as difficult as it may seem at first glance. Because if we would just feed and satisfy the body, we might think that it is great for a while, but in time we would understand, that is, admit to ourselves that we are feeding a void that is growing in a place where the soul once resided. That’s why there are a lot of people who seem to have everything, but they are not happy, or seemingly are.

A soul without a body can exist, but can a body be without a soul? It is my opinion that every form without content is useless and stupid, and everything that exists has its purpose and meaning…

It is clear that there must be the spirit as well as the body, the darkness and the light, the night and the day, the good and the bad, the joy and the sorrow… It is a life that goes on in spite of everything. Destruction and creation and the man at the center of everything. That is why God gave us both the soul and the body, to learn to balance, not to allow the body to corrupt the soul. This requires experience and freedom of spirit, the power of knowledge and self-understanding, open eyes but also an open heart. There is the one truth: one man, one soul, one life, one destiny, one meaning for each of us. When you find your meaning I’ll tell you who I am.

Tijana Stupljanin

Tata

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Koliko se snage i ljubavi krije iza reči tata?

Obično je majčinska ljubav ta o kojoj se govori kao simbolu univerzalne, bezuslovne ljubavi, ali za jednu devojčicu ljubav oca je sve, ceo njen svet se gradi na toj ljubavi.

Ja sam tatina ćerka; imam njegove oči, njegov stas, njegov hod… Povlačim se u sebe i ćutim kad me nešto tišti, baš kao i on. Volim iskreno i duboko i verujem u dobro u ljudima, i o poštenju i o doslednosti naučila sam od njega. On je bio heroj mog detinjstva, koji zna sve i može sve.

Naučio me je da pitam, da tražim odgovore. Sećam se svih naših šetnji kroz prirodu… Koji je ovo cvet, koje je ono drvo, gde žive životinje, koji su datumi i mesta značajni za istoriju, za naš narod… Probudio je u meni večitu žeđ za znanjem, ljubav prema životinjama i prirodi, potrebu za samostalnošću…

Pamtim sve njegove lekcije, a bilo je i onih malo grubljih, sirovijih, koje su ipak našle mesto u mom odrastanju.

Nema snažnije stvari od očevog zagrljaja i nema veće stvari od ljubavi jedne devojčice prema svom tati.

Dugme

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Svih oblika i dimenzija. Može biti i malo i veliko, najčešće je okruglo, ali moze biti i kockasto, srcasto, leptirasto, cvetno, u obliku kuce ili mace, bubamare i šišarke, ma može biti kakvo poželiš.

U  plehanoj kutiji od nekog davno pojedenog keksa, puno raznih, šarenih dugmića! Obožavala sam da ih prebiram i uparujem, smišljam priče kao da su stvarni, spajam i čitave porodice dugmića i nikad dosta igre. Baba i deda su mi pričali kako su oni u svoje vreme dobijali batine ako ih neko vidi da se igraju sa dugmićima. Kao i mnoge stvari u to posleratno vreme i dugmići su bili deficitarni, smatrani su za neku dragocenost. Mozda smo ih zato mi imali toliko da ih ne možemo potrošiti ni za dva života, osim ako neko u porodici ne počne da šije ili kreira razne stvari i predmete pa iskoristi to šarenilo za svoje maštarije.

A danas, danas su deficitarni samo dobri ljudi, svega ostalog ima i previše.